How to Prevent / Heal Separation Anxiety in Your Dogs

How to Prevent / Heal Separation Anxiety in Your Dogs

Finally!  We are getting to that point where, hopefully, most of us are getting back to work, and probably thrilled at the prospect. (Or not.) 

Either way, your kids are probably ecstatic that you won’t be around to nag them anymore–but, what about our dogs???  

We’ve spoiled them over the past several months, and, no doubt, they’ve gotten used to the extra attention, more play, more interactions, and likely more walks. 

Now what?? 

Sadly, this scenario is a perfect set-up for Separation Anxiety.  

Your dogs have been so used to having you around, that they may actually miss you, and long for you. How do many of these dogs respond?  They start acting out from the frustration and anxiety—they become destructive, they may start to bark excessively, and, to get back at you, may start leaving you “presents” around the house to demonstrate their displeasure! 


Anxiety Prevention

To help prevent this anxious behavior in your pets, now is the time to start to modify your recent routine by starting to withhold some of the added attention you’ve probably been giving.  

  • Even though you still may be home, don’t let your dog monopolize your time.  
  • Find some toys that are self-rewarding, i.e. the toy provides the reinforcement—not you.  
  • Start to ease up on the interactive toys—the ball, the tug-of-war rope, and the frisbee.  
  • A good exercise is to put your dog in a sit or down-stay, and leave the room for a minute or so every 15 minutes, and don’t let him follow you, as it is important to re-establish their comfort in being alone.  To make this more palatable for him (pun intended) leave him with a safe chew, hard rubber, or nylon bone to keep him busy.  

Normalize Your Routine

Once your normal work schedule resumes it is important to downplay your coming and going.  

  • When you leave for work, have your coat, your purse, backpack, briefcase, etc. already in the car, give your dog that long-acting play toy or treat in a different room, then quietly walk out of the door.  
  • If your dog is very reactive to what goes on outdoors (other dogs, mail or delivery personnel, etc.) try to keep him out of that room, or keep the shades or window coverings drawn. 
  • It would also be wise to remove any of the interactive toys from sight so he doesn’t see them and start thinking about you.  

Keep It Cool

When coming home at the end of your work day, don’t go crazy with excitement when you see him!Actually, it’s best to take the opposite approach:

  • Walk in the door and completely ignore him—walk right past him as if he isn’t there.
  • Once the initial excitement over your return subsides, you can start giving him calm attention.  

The bigger the deal you make of your return home, the more he will miss you and anxiously await your return!  

Keep It Steady

As many experts will tell you, one way to minimize a dog’s anxiety and his destructive behavior when alone, is by doing your best to wear him out before you leave

You might want to increase his exercise time by taking him for 

  • A jog
  • To the park to play fetch
  • If you have one and he enjoys it, let him play in the pool

I play fetch with my Yellow Lab by throwing the tennis ball into the pool for 15 to 20 minutes, and he’s ready to chill for hours!  



A great way to measure this exercise is by using an activity monitor—my favorite is the Fi collar, which not only quantifies activity via monitoring steps, but is also a GPS collar which will give any pet parent peace-of-mind knowing they can keep tabs on their dog as well as locate them should they be lost. By tracking and analyzing a dog’s activity, it makes it much easier to evaluate the success of your exercise program.  

Hopefully, your dogs will not experience any stress or anxiety as you head back to work, but if he does, follow these suggestions to minimize the effects and to keep him at his best behavior.

Good Luck!

Jeff Werber, D.V.M.

Fi Chief Veterinarian